Not yet a legal adult?
There’s still a lot you can do.
The good news:
You’re starting early. I applaud you for that!
Yes, you need to be cautious and stay safe, which can be a challenge, especially for young people.
Also, I hope you are on your journey toward knowing and loving your self, all parts of you, in great and glorious depth; and on a journey toward loving, interacting, and playing with others in the most joyful, skillful, and ethical ways possible.
The bad news:
I can’t allow you to view the website, even though I don’t believe for a moment that viewing it would harm you. It’s an element of caution that is important: when dealing with this kind of stuff, caution is a good idea.
Here are some ideas, regardless, of things you can do!
Try to be real.
Commit to growing your emotional and erotic wisdom…
…now, and for the remainder of your long and wonderful life.
What most adults know about their inner erotic life, and about interacting with others in the romantic & sexual realm, is little more than they learned as teenagers, from other teens.
If you’re going to grow into an adulthood of wisdom, self-knowledge, and dynamic fulfillment of your inner and interpersonal potential, then “common sense” is a really poor standard to aspire to.
I’ll just say it: that’s awful and you deserve better.
And the world of porn is terrible source of knowledge and learning about how to relate with yourself and others.
Step away from all that BS, whether it’s porn, fake experts, overconfident peers, sanctimonious adults, or shaming and pressuring into pretending you’re up for what you’re not.
Commit to being curious & skeptical,
cautious & brave…
Try to be real.
Start by asking these questions…:
To yourself:
What are people telling me that sounds more like posturing than truth?
To others:
What makes you think that’s true? (Lots of BS is parading as “common sense”.)
Where does your authority come from?
What makes you think you are in charge of this aspect of my existence?
Of your heart: Does this make my heart feel full?
Of your body: What does this part of my body yearn for? Does this make me feel calm and alive?
Of your spirit: Does this connect me with the deeper Allness of existence/creation?
Read a lot of good stuff. Stay away from dumb stuff.
Try to be real.
Here are a few things you might check out:
Sources to consider:
On Instagram, Justine Ang Fonte, an educator, gives great advice on knowing yourself, setting boundaries, and communicating with clarity and kindness, in relationships of all sorts. She even helps people craft a message to others about important things they’ve been having trouble saying clearly. She did that for me!
On Instagram, Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer!, offers wonderful tips on communicating with confidence, strength, and kindness, in all aspects of life.
An organization that I don’t know well, but they seem grounded, real, and even wholesome: Sex Positive Families. Their “About” web page and other pages have good video content as well.
